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Hi again everybody,
Well, here we are on our 4th post about how Life Coaching can help you progress on your Journey to Success, Happiness, Contentment or whatever it is you are pursuing in your life. I have another five great reasons why everybody should hire a good coach, and get cracking on the new life you promised yourself some time ago. I'd also like to remind you all here about my unique way of Empowering and Energising clients throughout my Group Coaching process...it is of course Drumming. Yes, Drumming, hand drumming to be precise. In future posts I want to explain to my readers exactly how this process works, and how this drumming and Coaching go hand in hand. That's all something to look forward to, but let's get back to this post now and have a look at our next five motives for hiring a Coach.
Drumming started as a means of healing, developing, communicating and entertaining thousands of years ago. Although at that time people did not fully understand what was happening to them when they drummed. Nor did they care. They only knew that drumming made them feel good...it gave them an energy they did not have prior to the drumming, and a feeling of strength, vitality and assertiveness above the normal level. We call this Empowerment today. New fancy word...same thing. They also felt a greater sense of community, connectedness and support because they always drumming in groups. Drumming lifts us to a higher place, sometimes a place that's indescribable however very real. We feel all the above...Energised, Stronger, more Self-confident and Aware. We feel supported by all the other drummers, and connected in a kind of Powerful, Intense and Spiritual way. That's why I use group drumming in my group coaching courses...to Empower my clients with a "can do" attitude and a feeling of assertiveness. More on this in my next blog.
Now back to the reasons for hiring a Life Coach...here are 5 more reasons.
1. Coaching can be the signposts that show you the direction to follow on your journey.
Personal Development is a journey. In fact a journey with no destination. If that sounds strange, let me explain a little. Most of us think that there is a certain time when we reach total happiness, total success, total fulfilment, (destination), however I don't believe such things exist. Perhaps I'm wrong, however I doubt it. You see, each time we reach what we thought (last year) would be total success, we then want to achieve even more, and off we go again on a new journey. But this is good. That's the way it should be. We need to keep trying to reach a new level all the time. This keeps us alert and interested. If we reach a level of what we believe to be total success early in life what happens? We go backwards. We think "this is it, I've done it now" We rest on our laurels and slip backwards. We think "is this all there is to it?" and we get board and frustrated. You see, there is no end, no destination only a continuous journey of small success's, of small measures of fulfilment and many bouts of happiness along the way. So, finding a good Coach is crucial to finding your way forward and continuing to set goals (success's), reaching them and moving on to the next ones. Let your Coach be the Sat-Nav on your continuous journey of life.
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination"
Jimmy Dean
2. Your Coach can evoke a bewildering Transformation in your outlook
If you feel that perhaps you have gone too far and even pass the point of rescue with regard to improving your life, think again. Coaching is for you. A good Coach can transform your negative outlook and have you brimming with Self-confidence in a few short sessions. It's so easy to let yourself get too low. There is a point where you might think "what's the point?" and saying things like "I'm too old" "I'm too fat" "I'm not educated enough" "I'm not experienced enough" and all sorts of things like this. That is when you must act. You need help to pull you up from the hole you have fallen into. It starts with an inner change of attitude...then a outer burst of action. Transformation is always possible if you embrace honesty and admit you could do with some professional assistance.
"I've never seen any life transformation that didn't begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit"
Elizabeth Gilbert
3. A good Coach will always give 100%
Some people have said to me that they would not hire a Life Coach because they are only "in it for the money". This is ridiculous and totally untrue. Coaching is a caring profession. People who become Coaches are caring and comforting people, that is why they enter the Coaching field in the first place. Speaking as a Professional Coach myself, I can tell you there is no better feeling than the feeling of knowing that you have helped make somebody's dream come true, or lifted their spirits, or made them feel that they are capable of achieving greater things. The money is the wage for the work, the reward is the smile on the clients face as they leave each session feeling empowered and inspired. A good Coach knows that in order to transform his/her life a client must give nothing less than 100%, so how can they as Coach even contemplate giving anything less? Trust me, a good Life Coach will always care about your results, and will never give less than 100% to the Coaching relationship.
"Whatever you do, always give 100%. Unless you're donating blood"
Bill Murray
4. A good Coach can show you the benefits of spreading humour
Strange as it may seem, some Coaches often use Humour as a means of relaxing or de-stressing a client. I don't mean this in the sense that they try to make the client bend over with laughter, but in a sort of frivolous or playful way. Part of many peoples problems is that they sometimes take everything far too seriously...including life itself. There will be many times in life when things will go wrong and all you can do is laugh. Laugh at yourself, laugh at situations, laugh at other people and laugh at the way things work out sometimes. Because you know what? sometimes life is very funny and it's a great release to just laugh at it. I would be very sceptical of a Coach who never uses humour in his/her sessions. Humour doesn't always have to make us laugh, or even smile, but it can make us think a little differently and change our perspective a lot. In your life journey, use a lot of humour, spread it around and see how things change for the better. And when finding a Life Coach, check out his/her sense of humour in some way before hiring them.
"A sense of humour is a sense of proportion"
Khalil Gibran
5. A good Coach will help you Deliver results.
As I have said before, there a many, many reasons for hiring a Life Coach, however, there is one thing all clients want from a Coaching relationship and that's results. At the beginning of each Coaching session the client must decide what they would like to get from the session, and at the end, if they have got what they expected. This is results. Good Coaching is when the Coach can see very clearly where the client wants to go, and guides him there. At the outset of the Coaching relationship it is always very helpful if the client has even a "blurred" vision of where they want to go. Then the Coach has something to work with. It's unfair to expect a Coach to take you to a certain point if you don't know yourself where that point is. If that is the case then both the client and the Coach will have to start working together to try to discover where the Coaching journey should take them. This will of course take longer (more sessions) but you now have a vision of what the end result might look like, and a good Coach will take you there. Coaching very often works backwards, starting with the end in mind (results)B, and working back to A, where the client is now. Then designing a roadmap to get from A to B. Coaching sessions are not working if they are not producing results, simple as.
"The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply"
Denis Waitley
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