5 ways Coaching can help you progress. (post 1)

Hi guys,

I hope this blog post finds you well, and in the Groove. Ok, so what can a Life or Business Coach do for you?  Good question. Many people wonder why they should use the services of a Life Coach...I mean what can they gain? What exactly will they get out of it? Well I have come up with a number of very good reasons for booking some sessions with a Life Coach...in fact so many I will need a couple of posts, but I have put together five here in this post with some explanations...in no particular order.

1. Coaching can inspire you to kick start a new beginning in your life.

  Yes, Inspiration! Where would we be without it. We all need to be inspired by someone or something from time to time. Inspiration is that tingling feeling you get inside when you just want to dive in and make something happen. Usually something that means a lot to you. Something that is a lifetime goal, something you have been putting off....sometimes for years. Inspiration can light the fuse that sends the spark down to the explosives....and BANG! there's no holding you back.

2. Coaching can help you to start your Motivation.

Please note that I say help "you" to start "your" Motivation. I say this because I believe we can only motivate ourselves. Yes I know we have people who call themselves Motivational Speakers, Motivational Coaches and so on, however I believe they can only Inspire us...we must Motivate our own actions. Motivate means to "move " "act" " perform" and nobody can get us off our bottoms only ourselves. So, your Coach can inspire you into motivational action.

3. Coaching can uplift your Spirits.

For a lot of people Coaching lifts them off the floor. People very often come to Coaching when they feel defeated, overwhelmed or crushed. This is of course not the correct time to seek out a Coach, but it is the reality for a lot of people. Ideally you should come to Coaching much sooner than this, before your spirit is broken. However if you do leave it late don't despair. Being Coached by an Inspirational Coach can soon lift your spirits, boost your confidence and elevate your courage and conviction in a matter of hours.

4. Coaching can facilitate a process of personal growth.

A Coach can be your best friend. They can (and will) be there when you need support and encouragement. They will assist you to "dig deep" into your essence and consciousness to find the "gold nuggets" of decision making you need to proceed. Remember, when you are being Coached, you (the client) hold the agenda, but you are not alone. Your Coach will act as a crutch, a prop or pillar, always asking probing questions that will lead you to self-discovery, and personal growth.

5. Coaching can build Leaders  

Most people equate leadership with a role within a business or corporate situation, however leadership is also needed to control and manage your personal life. You must set am example to yourself...you must make important decisions for yourself...you must be brave and take risks for yourself...you must lead from the front and not hide behind things such as Comfort Zones, Feeble Excuses, Procrastination or Half-Hearted Attempts. Coaching can bring out the leader in anyone, provided they are prepared to take responsibility and act courageously in any given situation.

So, there you have it. Five great reasons why you might use the services of a Coach. There are many more as I have mentioned, and I will list them in my next couple of blogs. Never forget there is always help out there. As humans we were never meant to make it alone in this world...we all must seek help and guidance at some stage. As a good friend of mine said to me once "the dog that barks the loudest always gets fed" So, don't be afraid to "bark" loud and get some Coaching when you need it.

Until next time, God bless.

Eddie.    

Liberate yourself......take Responsibility!

Hi guys,

What is your reaction when you meet obstacles? How do you react? What do you say to yourself? We all react to difficult times in our lives in different ways. Some of us just give up and say " I'm no good, I can't do this, I'm gonna quit". Others stay in there, and don't let things get to them. They say things like " I will not let this go, I know I can do this" or " I'm better than this situation, I can and will conquer it. Which person are you?

Why do some people just give up? What makes them say to themselves " I can't do this". Well it could be a number of things really. Firstly it could be lack of self-confidence, perhaps from failing in a similar situation before. It could also be laziness, just not bothered to face a few decisions and perhaps a little unpleasantness for a while. Lot's of people use "Time" as an excuse for not getting on with things "Gosh if only I had more time I would".....Yeah right! Many people blame other people when things get tough..."if only he had done this or that" " if only she had not done this or that" Why do we do this? Simple, we don't want to take responsibility for our own lives.

When you really think about it, this is very strange. Why do we not want to take responsibility for our own lives? Who do we think will do it if we don't? Let's get real here guys, everybody's too busy looking after their own lives to be bothered with yours. Yes, I mean Everybody. Too many people fail to fulfil their potential because they will not take responsibility for their actions, decisions and choices. Taking responsibility for your own actions is one of the most liberating things you can do. It's wonderful. To stop blaming other people, other situations or circumstances, and taking accountability for everything that happens to you in life is the biggest step you will ever take to personal freedom, independence and liberty.

Many people have come to me for coaching and/or advice only for me to discover that they are not in this zone of self responsibility...they always find someone else to blame. It often takes a long time for me to point out this shortcoming in their attitude, and the importance of changing their concept and perception of what is really happening in their world. Not taking responsibility for your actions will hold you back forever. You will not be able to progress or prosper even marginally until you offload this intrusive attitude.

Taking responsibility boosts your self-confidence, and your self-esteem. It also makes you a stronger and more assertive person. When you can say to yourself " that was my fault, I should have known better, and I will next time" you are releasing tension, you are releasing guilt and you are accepting that you are human. If you want to progress in life (and who doesn't? ) unshackle yourself from these chains of destruction and ruin. Cast them away forever and begin to live a life where you can accept your shortcomings, learn from them, and prosper despite them.

Until next time, God bless.

Eddie. 

Life Coaching.....so why the Drums?

Hi all,

Nice to be back with you again with another blog post. When deciding what to chat about today, I decided to take a look at a question that some people have asked me about my new programmes of Empowerment Coaching...using Drumming. A number of people do not understand where the drums come in.  What are they for?...what do they do?  So, let me try to explain a little about this concept of coaching, and why I use my drums.

Firstly, it's not drumming lessons. That is a different thing altogether. I'm my programmes I use the drums for "Rhythm Connection" Let me explain. In this world we all live in, Rhythm plays a huge part. In fact nothing works without the amazing and mysterious power of Rhythm. Everything needs a sense of Rhythm to operate properly, to work properly, to function properly...and so do we as humans. Yes, we operate day to day like rhythmical machines, physically, emotionally, socially and spiritually...or at least we are suppose to. When we are well (holistically) we are in Rhythm...all the parts of our lives are working well and synchronised. By this I mean we have no physical pain, no emotional problems, no social insecurities or spiritual doubts. We are in rhythm, and entrained to the Rhythms and tempo of nature and the universe.

When we wish to take on any task or undertaking in life, we must be in Rhythm...at least to do it properly. There is a correct and appropriate Rhythm or "Zone" to be in for any given task. This may not be realised or even understood at the time...I mean it's not exactly something people ask themselves every day "am I in the right Rhythm for this task?" however, when you are in the right Rhythm (Zone) you'll know it. Perhaps you may even remember a time when you felt this way. You felt nothing could go wrong, everything was lined up perfectly, things were so easy to do and everything was so clear. Do you know what I mean? Has this happened to you? This is what I call Rhythm Connection...everything is Rhythmically connected.

Now, if you decide to go for some Coaching...any kind of Coaching, you will need to make sure you are in the right Rhythm for it. You will need to understand that Coaching is a process...a Rhythm...just like anything else, and you must connect with this rhythmical "flow" in order to "drift" along with the process and stay synchronised with it. You will need to be "Rhythmically Tuned" holistically also to free yourself from any distractions that might force you "off" Rhythm, and into a situation of "dis-harmony" with the process. This happens in all aspects of life, like playing sports, working with people, socialising with people, having relationships with people and just everyday normal living functions like driving your car or using your laptop or cooking your dinner. There is a natural "flow" and "tempo" to all these undertakings, and when you find it, you will know it.

So, this is where the drumming comes in to play in my Coaching programmes...we drum to create Rhythm Connection. When we drum, we holistically "entrain". All our functions line up and become "One" and we operate at our maximum capacity. We are more creative, more awakened and more alert than at any other time, and we are ready to take anything on and Succeed! When we do this on a regular basis, it becomes part of us and we stay in Rhythm for longer periods. Focus and concentration become automatic and we can see the way forward to reaching our goals as an easy, relaxed and tranquil journey.

But there's more. Group Drumming has been used for hundreds of years to Empower, Uplift and Energise people. Life Coaching is a time of transformation, a time for change, a time to take risks and leave comfort zones. How can this possibly be done if we are not energised and empowered? Group Drumming creates all this...plus peer support. In a group drumming situation you will feel Empowered like never before. You will find energy you never thought you had...a strange kind of universal Energy that carries you forward on a surfboard of Rhythm. Amazingly Group Drumming has a mysterious way of being very uplifting while at the same time so relaxing, and we use this gift to accompany Affirmations and Visualisation exercises, and to release tension and negative baggage, concerns, anxieties and uncertainties.

So there you go. I hope you now have a better understanding as to why I use my Drumming in my Group Coaching sessions. It all makes sense when you think about it really. Oh, and did I mention...DRUMMING IS LOT'S OF FUN!

Till next time, God bless.

Eddie.   

 

My new Role as a Life Coach!



Hi All,

Well well, It's been a long seven months (for me anyhow) but I finally got to the end of my Diploma Course in Executive and Life Coaching, and got my Diploma. Wow! It was a lot of work I can tell you. I started out last March, and I can assure you there were times when I just wanted to quit, but I know that is not the answer to anything. Long evenings studying, researching, planning and completing assignments...early morning corrections and just making deadlines. But hey, it's all behind me now and I can relax knowing I have achieved what I set out to achieve. But what exactly did I want to achieve I hear you say. Well, let me see if I can explain here.

I have been facilitating recreational drumming workshops now for over 20 years. I have had a great time doing this, and enjoyed every moment of it. However, some time ago I started to get the feeling that there was more I needed from this work. I was giving people a good relaxed time, teaching them how to be creative with a drum, and also improving their awareness of Rhythm...which is my passion, but I knew deep inside that there was more I wanted to give...but what was it? After a lot of soul searching I made an enormous discovery. I discovered that what I really wanted to do with my life was to help people...more specifically, help them to be the best version of themselves. Help them believe in themselves more, help them reach goals and heights they never thought possible. Help them to come out of their comfort zones and stand tall in the face of this world. Help them transform from people who hold back, to people who press forward constantly.

I also realised that all of us (without exception) need some help from time to time...help from other people to support us in our attempts to be the person we know we can be. We cannot do it alone. But where do we go for help? What kind of help is out there? Well, in my search I found many types of help from teachers, tutors and facilitators to mentors, consultants and coaches. On examining what area of help I wanted to provide, I decided that coaching was the way for me to go. Coaching ticked all the boxes. My absolute passion is to help people to believe they can live the life of their dreams. To assist people in digging deep into their hearts and souls to find solutions to breaking through obstacles and barriers that they feel is holding them back from a life of excitement, adventure and self-discovery. Yes, coaching was for me...this was the missing link I needed to complete my goal, which is to show to people that abundance is not just for the "elite" it's for all of us...we just need to discover what our "abundance" is, get some help...and go for it.

So, let me share my plan with you. My plan is to combine my two disciplines together to form a programme of courses, workshops, seminars and retreats aimed at Empowering, Energising, Supporting, Encouraging, Inspiring and Coaching people in the art of Personal Growth and progress...Personally and Professionally. That's it! I will use my Drumming skills to empower and energise my clients, and facilitate their journey to "Rhythm Connection" which I believe is the basic foundation needed to undertake any personal growth endeavour. This will be done during group Empowering drumming workshops/sessions, that will also include discussions, exercises, weekly assignments and undertakings aimed at progressing your journey to success. Between these weekly workshops each client will have a private coaching session with me (one per week) via Skype or phone.  There are also plans for some residential weekends in the new year.

That's it my friends. Over the next few weeks and months I will inform interested people through social media outlets (and my web-site which is almost ready to hit the cyber world) about any upcoming courses, workshops, seminars or other programmes. It's gonna be exciting times guys, so if you want to start a transformation in your life and fancy joining the "Circle of Empowerment" stay tuned to my blog and other social media outlets for all current information. That's it for now from your newly qualified Professional Executive and Life Coach. I'm so looking forward to the future, and my new line of work. Thanks for reading.

God bless,

Eddie.